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When You're Put In A Position To Figure It Out, You Figure It Out

We are here to break habits, toxic cycles and knock down walls. Getting out of our comfort zone and GROWING. Growth is important, very very important in order to move up in this game of life. The difficult part is, that we usually only grow in discomfort. That means, trying something new or putting ourselves in positions where we could potentially fail which is scary as all can be. Why would we want to go ahead and set ourselves up for failure when we could stay in the safe comfortable space we set for ourselves?

That's the journey, figuring it out. We will not take leaps and jumps or figure out new things for ourselves if we do not put ourselves in a position to do so. We will not get over fears, anxieties and learn new things if we do not put ourselves in a position to do so. For example, when you're afraid of rejection and have this deep rooted fear and anxiety of being rejected then you should go on a date, apply for a job you may not get and embrace the uncomfortable space of the unknown. This is a good time to pay attention to our bodies and how frightful we can be and sit a moment with ourselves. This is a time when the conscious self can meet unconscious self and heal our inner child.

Fears are learned beliefs. Somewhere along the way we learned that being rejected was traumatizing or whatever the fear or limiting belief may be. We learned that through our traumatic events from our childhood that it is hurtful and sad to be rejected and when we are put into a position to possibly be rejected we go into panic mode. We need to break that cycle so we can move forward with life. We cannot stay stuck in the same place for the rest of our lives, we must push to understand ourselves and move forward.

So, put yourself in a position to figure it out, then you will be forced to sit with yourself and figure it out. You will be forced to give that inner child a hug and tell them "it's okay, we can do this". Once you complete the task. then your body realizes that its not so bad and it gets easier and easier every time. Then we are making moves towards growth and expansion knocking down one wall at a time. It won't happen overnight so don't get discouraged but continue putting yourself in those scary position here and there. Reach out for help if needed, phone a friend, get a psychologist or a coach to coach you through your emotions during this time.

As small and silly as the task may be, don't be hard on yourself. Theres a reason for everything and people get triggered for different reasons for different things and there's nothing wrong with that. However, that does not mean we should stop and stay in our safe corner. We are here to grow and learn, to receive energy but also to give. In order To do so we must be the best we can be each day and that doesn't mean perfect but that means we try by breaking habits and learned behaviors by picturing our life and who we really want to be and what we want to achieve physically, emotionally and personally.

Good luck!
Lauren Plante
Lauplantecoaching@gmail.com

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